Double Binds Explained - Useful NLP & Hypnotic Language Patterns for Suggestion
Double Binds Offer Choice with Any Outcome Being Positive
Double Bind Examples in Hypnosis
Double binds are often used in hypnotherapy treatments. Some exaggerated examples of suggestions inducing hypnosis might be:
- Now if you simply close or shut your eyes … good … and take two or three deep breaths and let yourself to be as lazy or relaxed as you wish to be as you hear or listening to the sound of my voice.
- And as you walk or stroll or wander along this path in the woods you feel or notice a gentle breeze on your face or arms.
Examples Out of Hypnosis in an NLP Therapy Session
- Having now discussed and demonstrated some good stress relieving solutions would you like to practice them more with me or find some other techniques before you do them by yourself or are you ready now? (always assuming there is going to be a good solution for you that you will use)
- We have been talking about you always saying to yourself are not good enough. Would it be better for you, to carry on listening to that constant, critical self-talk in your head or change that voice into a silly, squeaky mouses voice and giggle at it before shooing it away? (which would you choose and which is easier to ignore so you can get on with life?)
Examples as Used by Parents
- Parent: “Are you going to use the rake or the leaf blower to tidy up the lawn now?”
- Parent: “Will you be washing the car now or strait after lunch?”
- Parent: “Which would you prefer to do now, load the dishwasher or wash the dishes in the sink?”
Conversational Double Binds are Used in Sales
Sales representatives will offer a choice, assuming any outcome means a sale.
- Sales rep: “Would you like that car in blue, grey or another colour?”
- Sales rep: “Are you going pay by cash, card or finance?” (Note multiple choices offered which all assume the sale is happening)
Good Bosses Empower Staff This Way
At work a boss giving staff choices empowers them.
- Boss: “What would you like to do next, focus on completing that project before its deadline or complete another task on your worksheet?“
- Boss: “Are you going to write the memo we talked about now or first thing in the morning?”
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