Solutions for a Better Love Life Today – How to Improve Your Intimate Relationship

loving couple looking into the sunset togetherWe offer you some great solutions to sexual issues with our sex therapy and hypnotherapy services. However, there are also some easy steps you can take before any intimate play takes place that can help you today. Telling each other what you would like to do is a good start for anyone. It might not be a comfortable conversation to start with but, as you get used to doing it, it offers you both invaluable insight into what you want, need and desire. Next you might consider building sexual tension and anticipation between you. This could be likened to lighting a match to start the flames of passion. Then progressing onto planning how you want to add some excitement into your love life. The below are simple guidelines to things you can do to enhance your love life right now.

Make the Time to Talk About Your Wants Needs & Desires

couple having a private talkTalking about sex together can be hard for some couples. However, if you can make some private time to do it, this can certainly open doors for you both. Begin by trying to see how your partner feels about talking about your sexual relationship. Make sure they understand it is important to you but, it should also be important to them and your relationship. Take small steps at first to get the stage set so you are both comfortable talking about it. Feel free to print out this page and share it with your loved one. Having a mutual starting point and a bit of background to talk about and plan from is always a good idea.

Build Anticipation – Light a Match to Start the Flames of Passion

couple in a loving hug by the seaLet’s not forget that building up the anticipation to an intimate moment can be fun too. You should investigate both the physical and emotional side of this stimulation as they are of equal importance and both crucial. You want the intimate moments you have to be like a blazing passionate fire of pleasure for you both. So, we need to create a spark or light a match before that happens.

Emotional Stimulation Adding to Anticipation

On the emotional side of anticipation, make sure you have set the stage where things will progress. Smile and look into your partners eyes for more than a moment (more than 3 seconds is crucial). Then scan up and down their body with that smile. As you return to their eyes blow a kiss and or winking will help the build-up. Perhaps go into the bedroom, put on some low lighting, pull back the bedsheets from one corner and add the smallest dab of the scent that you wear (perfume or aftershave) that you know for sure is their favourite (not necessarily your favourite).

Gentle Physical Simulation to Build Sexual Tension

intimateWhere the physical is concerned an occasional gentle touch as you are passing can be nice. It doesn’t have to be overly sexy but, it will help build anticipation. It might even get them thinking about some of the fun to come. You might also consider enhancing and extending your foreplay. Try taking the time to really explore each other’s bodies. Perhaps clothed to start with, removing each other clothes slowly. can drastically improve your arousal levels and your trusting emotional bond as well. Then do so naked. Really explore your partner’s naked body from head to foot. Gentle touch, a gentle kiss, a warm embrace, perhaps licking them when appropriate. Understand what is happening in the moment, be there with your partner and understand what their responses are. Make a note of when they respond more enthusiastically, more passionately and make sure you return there to do more later. Paying attention to all of the sensory details as you give pleasure and receive the response can lead to much more rewarding intimate experience for both of you.

Ideas to Add Excitement & Variety into Your Sexual Relationship Today

An effective approach for everyone is to add some variety and excitement into your intimate moments. If sex has become the same ritual each time you play, then the game can become a bit mundane for both of you. So, why not try investigating different kinds of intimacy? The below are some easy, well documented methods that can work very well. They don’t take a lot of planning or money to do. If you are looking for more from your relationship I as a sex therapist would recommend you give them a try. They might add some pizzazz back into your sexual relationship today, just like you want to.

Some simple examples of interesting and exciting play are;

doctor looking to examine you

  • Role playing and dressing up (e.g. doctor and nurse or slave and master)
  • Sensual massage (warmed oils gently rubbed all over from head to foot).
  • Shower together before the main event.
  • Trying to do things in new, exciting positions.
  • Extended foreplay (try 10 minutes, then 15, then 20 or more minutes before penetration).
  • Use sex toys (dildos, cock rings, vibrators, couple’s vibrators, prostate massagers)

All the above can help reignite the loving passion in your relationship. They should be designed to be mutual fun. Simply engaging in sensual, playful activities together may also help you to build a greater sense of anticipation before the main event begins. Talk about what you would like to do and then set time aside as so, you have something to look forward to. Go on, try it, you might just like it.

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